08/1, 2016 2,645 views
Dating over the age of 40 can be a huge challenge as there are huge differences with what you need to make sure there is a second date. What many singles over 40 do not realize is that you need to be as memorable as possible. That may sound simple; however, being memorable can be a challenge, and it takes skills to do so.
Not being in your 20’s, means that you should be interested in a person who has more depth than a puddle. Remember that the other person also has a busy life, and many singles over 40 would rather stay single than end up in a bad relationship. Contrary to many people’s belief, you do not need to be pretty or handsome to get a date. This would mean only around 10 percent of the population would be dating. Many people over the age of 40 are mature enough to see past just looks.
So, what do people look for when they are over 40 dating? Most singles over 40 are looking for someone they can have fun with, have great conversations, and have similar interests and values as themselves. If you want that second date, you are going to need to show them that you are able to do these things. Here are some ways to help you get the second date.
Stick With the Good When 40 Plus Dating
Everyone knows that first impressions are the most important thing to starting any relationship. When you are on your first date, make the date a 100 percent positive experience. You should not bond over the bad stuff. At the time, it can seem like a great thing that you both hate your job, or had bad divorces. However, these discussions will lead to a whole negative tinge to the date. If these topics come up, try to gently move the conversation way from them. This takes skill to do, but learning this skill is worth it. It can also be useful in other areas of your life, not just dating.
Focus On Your Date but Not Too Much When 40 Plus Dating
For singles over 40 that have just started to date, many will let their dates talk about themselves endlessly. If you let your date do this, your date may end up not knowing anything about you, except that you are a good listener. This skill is important, but it is most likely not at the top of the list for a partner. There is also the worry that you maybe an interrogator and this can lead to your date to become anxious about telling you a lot about themselves. No matter which option happens, you are not going to get a second date.